We Create What We Fear Most

          Lack of communication, and over-thinking are two things that can completely destroy a person's outlook on anything. I think sometimes when we don't know how to vocally express what we want or need, depending on how we DO react, it can be threatening. Maybe you start to act out, and test boundaries. You are trying to express that what you want is attention, but to everyone else, you just need to take a chill pill. And 9.5 times out of 10, what you get as a result of that behavior, is NEGATIVE attention, which, in my opinion is worse than none. 

        Life is all about trial and error. We learn how to act and communicate, but when we don't know how to, or we become impatient with other people, it is completely natural to overthink. One thing that I have learned over the past year is: we create what we fear most. What happens is we begin overthinking about a situation, and you immediately assume the worse. It's safer that way, right? Easier let down. Wrong. You have to take things for what they are; and a lot of times, that can be one of the hardest things to do sometimes because we feel anxious and pressured, and want answers right that second. When you assume the worse, it's only appropriate to plan for the worst, right? Wrong again. You end up making a situation, that for all you know, could be the complete opposite of how you're imagining it to be, and you turn it into the situation you're panicking over. Before you can get a handle on it, you have just created what you feared most. The worst part about that, is a lot of times when you have already reached that point, it's rare you get a do-over. 

          You have to know what you want and what you need. If you aren't ready to verbally express those emotions to others, you have to understand that the other people can't read your mind, and being patient is your best option. Easy for me to say, a lot harder for me to do. We all have our strong points, and our weak points. I know that patience is something I have to learn in order to not create a situation I do not want. 

        "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results." By that definition, I think we're all a little insane. Again, you have to use trial and error. If being obnoxious in an effort for attention fails, you have to stop. Don't push boundaries on purpose, because there comes a time when you push too far. And again, you don't get a do-over. Take things in as you learn them, learn what works and what doesn't, take a deep breath, and do not let your mind start wandering in the negative direction.

Prayers&Positivity

Becka