A lot of people, recently have wondered why I'm so positive all the time. This might throw some people off, but I totally understand this question, because there was a time where I would ask someone the same thing. I've learned that life is so short. And I've been on the negative side of things. I've been the girl with the bad attitude and that didn't want to associate with anybody. I've thought the worst, and let the worst happen. I hate negativity. Negativity attracts negativity, and nothing good can come out of being negative. Being positive, and happy, doesn't come from having everything go as planned, or having a "perfect" life. Anyone who knows me, knows that my life is far from perfect. But I don't dwell on everything that's going wrong. I look at, and thank God for what's going right. I can't say that there aren't moments that I get angry, or upset. We're human and we all feel like that from time to time. But I don't let those feelings consume me. I don't really hold grudges. We all make mistakes, and to hold a grudge just takes so much energy...negative energy, that I just don't want or need. I've learned that some things just aren't worth it. There's people you need in your life, and there's people you don't. Every single person that comes into your life, I guarentee you is going to hurt you in some way at some point in time. Maybe not drastically, but even just as small as hurting your feelings. Face it, we hurt people we love frequently. But you have to forgive them. I know some people think I'm crazy because most of the time, I believe in giving people a lot of chances. Why? Because there's been a few times that I've need more than one, two, even three chances to correct myself. And I wouldn't be where I am today, if I hadn't of gotten those chances. Now I'm not saying to keep giving people chances if you're miserable doing it, or if you feel like it's a chore or anything. Because I also feel that there are people that are incapable of change. Or at least need more help.
I've also learned that helping other people, helps you help yourself. Seeing anyone, especially my friends upset, breaks my heart. I could be having a million things not going right in my life, but if I walk into school that morning, and just one of my friends are upset over something, they're my first priority. And a lot of times, listening to them, makes me realize that their situations are a lot worse than mine. Someone ALWAYS has it way worse than us. I'm not trying to be "corny" or anything when I say that, but seriously. There are people starving, with no homes, people dying and losing someone they love every single day. And we seem to have the time to ignore the people that care the most about us because they may have said or done something so small to hurt our feelings. We seem to have the time to whine that we can't go shopping this weekend because "our parents are jerks". What is truly important to you? What if tomorrow your life just ended? Would that shopping trip or petty disagreement really matter? No.
I'm the type of person that will willingly help whoever I can, whether I'm close to them or not. I know what it's like, and how it feels to feel like no one is there for you. I know what it's like to just want someone to pay attention to me. Sometimes all it takes is one compliment, or better yet, just giving them a smile. It costs absolutely nothing to be nice to someone. I don't want people to feel like no one cares, or that there isn't any hope. Every single one of you are loved and cared about. Every single one of us deserves to be happy. But you have to realize what is truly important in your life. Happiness starts with you. It's a choice. I used to think that was crazy. I was one of those people that if things weren't going my way, I wasn't happy. But life doesn't work that way. It's not about how much money you have, it's not about any materialistic thing. It's about spending your life with the people that mean the most to you, and never missing an opportunity to tell someone how much they mean to you. Tomorrow is never promised. Find happiness is helping someone, find happiness within your friends & family, but most importantly, find happiness within yourself.
Prayers&Positivity
Becka
